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Notes about raising children

Bill FoxBy Bill Fox/Columnist

Two weeks ago, I had the pleasure of flying out to BC to help out in babysitting our newly arrived twins (a boy and a girl), and our granddaughter who just turned two!  You can’t imagine how difficult it is for a mother, while Dad is at work, to watch over, feed, burp and change diapers of twins, while trying to entertain a two-year-old.  I know after two weeks I was feeling exhausted, and I was only helping Mom.

It reminded me of how my wife and I within seven years had four children…and we always seemed to have two in diapers.  But somehow we survived and so did they.  Today we are so proud of our four sons, now in their 30s.

I came across a handy guide to raising children this past week.  I trust we did our best.  I’m sure all moms and dads also try their best but sometimes we need reminding so here goes:

 

If Children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.

If they live with hostility, they learn to fight.

With ridicule, they learn to be shy.

If they live with shame, they learn to feel guilty.

On the other hand if they live with:

Tolerance, they learn to be patient.

Encouragement, they learn confidence.

Praise, they learn to appreciate.

Fairness, they learn justice.

Security, they learn to have faith.

Approval, they learn to like themselves.

Acceptance and friendship they learn to find love in our world.

Finally some quotes I found related to raising children:

 

It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men-Frederick Douglass
A child who is allowed to be disrespectful to his parents will not have true respect for anyone-Billy Graham
Each day of our lives we make deposits in the memory banks of our children-Charles R. Swindoll
At the end of the day, the most overwhelming key to a child’s success is the positive involvement of parents-Jane D. Hull

To be a good father and mother requires that the parents defer many of their own needs and desires in favour of the needs of their children. As a consequence of this sacrifice, conscientious parents develop a nobility of character and learn to put into practice the selfless truths taught by the Saviour Himself-James E. Faust
There are only two lasting bequests we can hope to give our children. One of these is roots, the other, wings-Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
My mom and dad gave their kids the greatest gift of all – the gift of unconditional love. They cared deeply about who we would be, and much less about what we would do-Mitt Romney
The more people have studied different methods of bringing up children the more they have come to the conclusion that what good mothers and fathers instinctively feel like doing for their babies is the best after all-Benjamin Spock
Let parents bequeath to their children not riches, but the spirit of reverence-Plato
At every step the child should be allowed to meet the real experience of life; the thorns should never be plucked from his roses-Ellen Key

Every word, facial expression, gesture, or action on the part of a parent gives the child some message about self-worth. It is sad that so many parents don’t realize what messages they are sending-Virginia Satir

And my own little bit of advice:  I notice every rainy day, the parents’ cars are backed up at every elementary and even high school.  I don’t think walking two miles to school in the rain or the snow ever harmed anyone I knew.  I think parents should let their youngsters learn to walk in the rain, and in the snow.