By Bill Fox/Columnist
As we look ahead to a new year, isn’t it an ideal time for resolutions concerning self-improvement?
Perhaps along with losing weight, some may wish to quit smoking or to improve their drinking and eating habits.
Yet, according to a recent Ipsos Reid poll, less than one-third of us actually make a resolution, and of those, 75 per cent break them usually within the first month anyway.
So, only eight per cent of us actually keep them, and I’m sad to say I am not in that group.
With advertisements bombarding us each day about gyms, weight loss, and more, one would think we have a lot to fix. But what is wrong with just being a healthy you?
On her blog, “Active Aging Answers for Boom Chicka Boomers,” fitness pro Alexandra Williams advises to avoid resolutions, forget the “new” you and be “more” you.
“Be you in all your glory,” Williams writes. “Youth and beauty aren’t accomplishments. How we live is. Take a chance, a leap or a dare. Just say yes to a few new things. And no to others. My exhortation, hope, admonition and reminder is this – go live.”
Writing for The Huffington Post, Dr. Marcia Sirota notes people get trapped by the negative idea that they’ve fallen short. She believes it is self-love, not just love from others, which will empower you to create a better year ahead. Being true to yourself doesn’t mean you resist change.
Two-thirds of those polled told Ipsos Reid they set something which may be much more meaningful than resolutions – intentions. Some main intentions include focusing on the positive, learning something new, and, yes, being true to oneself.
So here are some ideas I have received from readers and friends:
How about a more positive column focusing on folks paying it forward? At Christmas especially, we all receive plenty of material items we don’t need. Pass them along to where they will be put to better use.
Last May, a crew began demolishing the home where billionaire couple Honey and Barry Sherman were murdered. Except for some special mementos, my understanding is the furnishings were included in the bulldozing. Sad as the entire situation was, you would think someone might have salvaged some of the furnishings to provide help to the disadvantaged in the GTA.
Here is a New Year’s resolution that perhaps could be beneficial to the less fortunate in our community. When grocery shopping once a month, buy one canned food item that could be included in the purchase and then left in the food bank collection box near the exit of the grocery store. More often than not, suitable items are often on sale for less than a dollar. If this was done by all who could afford it all year long, the food bank supplies would be in better shape come summer and other times of high demand.
I remember as a child, our family in Scarborough was visited by members of St. Vincent de Paul, and given a box of food to tide us over during the Christmas holidays. My mom had tears in her eyes, as she was a very proud woman, but realized the generosity of our local church members.
Sometimes I believe life is like driving a car. Just as life is never a straight path, likewise while driving, there are curves in the road. On our road there are also up and down hills, just like ups and downs in life. I believe the secret is to be focused on the road ahead and to keep moving towards your ultimate destination.
However, like driving a car, if we keep focused on our rear view mirrors, we will soon crash. Everyone has things in their past they regret, but focusing too much on them won’t help you go forward.
So happy driving in 2020, and eventually we will all arrive safe and sound. I’m at firstname.lastname@example.org if you have any driving tips.